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Question: Im bored in bed with my Fiance?! Please help me. READ.?
We have a beautiful 3 month old little girl. We connect in a great way. Our sex used to be good. Mostly because of me.. I liked it in different and new places.. I suggested new things. Well., I know this sounds lame but he went to the tilted Kilt (a restaurant basically like hooters but irish style i guess, in like school girl outfits) and he hid it from me. I asked him not to go coz I was pregnant and he said he had no interest in going there anyway,, but he did. I found out 2 months after he went. I guess u can call our relationship somewhat conservative coz i didnt go dancing or whatever like i knew he would hate. we “avoided all things that might coz problems”. well now that he went one week after i gave birth, i feel so “ugly”. Im in the gym working my ass off almost everyday, ive lost almost 40 lbs in my 3 postpartum months. but i feel like he disrespected me. I feel like im not good enough for him. I know i look decent. Im not stupid. Im not fat. But now i HATE having sex with him. IDK, im just bored… or maybe insecure. idk. I just have it in the back of my head that he hid going there. Not only that, but i think he his hiding talking to a girl he used to go to school with that works there. even if she was just his waitress or whtever.. he said he didnt know she worked there which is a lie coz she friend resuested him with a full body pic of her in her oufit on facebook. ikd. am i being dumb? Having a baby just changes everything…. sex just isnt the same now that he went there after saying he had no interest. Now hes saying he was just interested in “the food” like he is with every restaurant. hiding it from me was WRONG. If he WANTED to go.. i wouldve went with him geez. he didnt have to hide it?
maybe tmi? im bringing toys into bed (just vibrators nothing “huge” lol) I just cant get off with just him now. another sign im bored. i feel like If he didnt hide going to the Tilted Kilt.. I wouldnt have this issue honestly.

Answer:

Answer by BIG DADDY COOL
it sounds to me that since the baby came along, the communication and the sleep are suffering badly. You 2 are not on the same page at all. Some couples counseling might be in order to get things back together.

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