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Q&A: Should my boyfriend be standing up for me, or should I lighten up with his family? Please help…?
Question: Should my boyfriend be standing up for me, or should I lighten up with his family? Please help…?
I’ve been with my b/f for 2 years, and I’m 7 months pregnant. We are staying with his mom and 2 brothers (19 and 21) for the next few months until we get our own place. My boyfriend and I are both 25. I feel his family is very disrespectful to me, and my boyfriend never stands up for me. He says I’m just overly sensitive. What do you think….
> When I first started showing, his Mom told me, “That’s not baby, that’s a big layer of fat.” and proceeded to call my b/f in to look at my “fat”
> His father, having only met me once for a few minutes, called me and proceeded to ask me “How do you know that baby is my sons? Your really trying to tell me you haven’t slept with anyone else? Well, when was the last time you slept with anyone else? How many guys have you slept with? etc” I’ve never cheated on my b/f.
> When I asked his brother to please not give any of the dinner to his friends, because we are low on money, he went and fed 4 friends, and told me to “get the f— out of his face
and contininued to eat the entire pan of food. This brother, and the other one, never have worked a day in there life, and neither graduated high school.
> I ask the brothers not to smoke in the house, because I’m pregnant. They ignore me.
> When I leave the house, the brothers interogate me about where I’m going.
> They take things out of our room.
> They are loud at night, and when I ask them to please be quite, they ignore me and get louder.
I’m not allowed to say anything to his family about anything, or my boyfriend gets angry. When they say things that hurt my feelings, my boyfriend says nothing and says I’m being sensitive, but if I say something that someone in his family doesn’t like, It’s like I’m the biggest B—- in the world. His brothers have tried to let my cats outside so they run away, even though the cats never leave my room. I suffer depression, and my cats help alot. I don’t know if I’m being sensitive, or if my b/f should be defending me.
I should add, I don’t work right now because I got into a car accident right around the time I got pregnant. But I do wake up early. I do all the laundry, I do all the shopping, cooking, and I clean up after everyone. Nobody helps me with dishes. Nobody ever says thank you to me when I make dinner. Nobody ever helps me clean. I ask for rides to the store, the brothers have told me to walk. My boyfriend helps me alot, but he works 9-10 hours a day, every day. His Mom works from home, and the brothers have never worked. I try taking care of my boyfriend as much as I can, all the time, but I’m getting tired because of being pregnant, but nobody will help me.
Answer:
Answer by C-DOGG
he should be standing up for you if he loves you!
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I’m so tired of my boyfriend, but i’m 8 months pregnant…what do i do?
Question: I’m so tired of my boyfriend, but i’m 8 months pregnant…what do i do?
We have been together for a little less then a year and i’m now 8 months pregnant. We live together and now his paying all the bills because i lost my job recently. I can’t stand it anymore, nothing is every good enough for him no matter what i do. He works in a roofing com. and i cook everyday for him but his the tipical cuban that wants to eat rice and beans EVERYDAY!!! So if i don’t make rice and beans its not good for him, he saids what i make is trash and he needs “better food” . For example i made baked chicken and mashed potato with gravy. That’s not good enough. I just don’t know what to do anymore if it wasn’t that he was helping me pay the bills and if i wasn’t pregnant i wouldn’t be with him but that’s noot the case. What do i do? Will it change when the baby is born? I don’t know anymore but i care alot for him but don’t love him. All we do is fight about anything…it really sucks!
Well i thank all the people that are giving me real advise. I ended up pregnant even when i was taking the bill so it wasn’t something that i thought would happen. It wasn’t in the plan. I didn’t know that he was like that and when i was working he would cook for me when i would get home and he helps me clean too but now since his the only one working it’s like he doesn’t appreciate me or anything that i do. At 8 months he should be happy that i’m doing anything. I just can’t find a way to get him to see that i do my best…
Answer:
Answer by RunAmuk4Fun
If you’re fighting now, it probably will get worse after the baby is born. Recognize you’re unhappy and start making plans for getting out on your own after the baby is born.
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Should a vegetarian have to go to a non-vegetarian friendly restaurant just to make her boyfriend happy?
Question: Should a vegetarian have to go to a non-vegetarian friendly restaurant just to make her boyfriend happy?
What’s worse: A) a guy asking his vegetarian girlfriend to go to a non-vegetarian friendly restaurant (Benihana’s) where she will most likely vomit or not be able to eat because of the horrid smells of several types of dead animals being cooked right in front of her; or B) a girl not going to her boyfriend’s favorite restaurant?
Answer:
Answer by pink_panda96
Ok so don’t take this personal- I’m not a vegetarian but if I were dating a guy who was I’d try to compromise. Go to his fave place, yes maybe gag and whatever but then he has to return the favor and go to your fave place in return. My bf loves seafood and I vomit at the smell (basically) but we take turns and accept eachothers likes and dislikes as much as we hate certain foods or restaurants
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Q&A: What should my boyfriend do about his ex and not being able to see his daughter even if he pays child support?
Question: What should my boyfriend do about his ex and not being able to see his daughter even if he pays child support?
My boyfriend has this crazy ex that I feel sorry that he even has to deal with for the rest of his life. It might sound mean or f*****d up, but I swear, if you could hear the things this woman tells him and how much she harasses him, you would think the exact same thing. So they had a child together six years ago. The story is long and f****d up. They broke up and now he pays her child support and he hardly EVER gets to see her. He’s lucky if he sees her 1 a month. She’s always calling to yell at him about SOMETHING. As of right now, he’s homeless, but he works and he’s trying to save up so we can move in together. I met him 2 years ago and we have a 9 month old son. I stay with my mom and he sleeps n his car. He pays 300 a month in CS. If he’s a week late his ex FLIPS OUT. She doesn’t seem to understand or care that he is homeless, trying to take care of his family, while he hardly has any money to feed himself during the workweek, so he can pay her the CS. She’s always going out and partying and buying alcohol and spending her money shopping while we are struggling a lot. It’s hard for me to find a job because I don’t have a car and we live in a rural area and have no public transportation. It’s also hard for me to find anyone to watch my baby. I’m sure if i worked we would do better. But his ex has a boyfriend who could work and help her pay for things, but she expects my boyfriend to still pay for her bills and her food and calls him a “deadbeat” because his 300 “don’t go very far” and “she wants to make sure her family has more than enough food” while we can’t even buy food. I’m lucky my mom is letting me stay with her and not making me buy my own food for me and my baby. We just don’t know if there is anything we could do about this. He should be getting 14 hours a week with his daughter, court-ordered, but doesn’t get to see her. He wouldn’t mind paying his ex the CS if he could spend time with his daughter, but he feels he’s paying for a child he never gets to see. And not only that, he’s giving his ex money, even though she’s always complaining she never has money for her gas or bills, but is always getting her hair and nails done and going to bars and parties. This story is soo long and I could go on all night, and this woman did my bf soo wrong, and still continues. Is there anything we could about this??
First of all, he wasn’t homeless when I met him and got pregnant. And second of all, you guys have NO IDEA what this woman has put him through. He was laid off, just like many many people out there in this recession. The house we were renting out was put into foreclosure, and that’s how I ended up at my mom’s. This woman was a drug addict who cheated on him with AT LEAST 7 different men, that he knows of. He had a good job when they were together, and made good money. He saved up money to get a house together. And what did she do? Did drugs when she was pregnant, made him take care of the baby girl after he came home from a hard days of work so she could “go out”, had sex with other guys for drugs, spent his money on vacations and shopping. Belittled him about anything, broke him down. She milked him for his money, and once the money was gone, she was gone. And why did he stay with her that long?? He knew this would’ve happened and he would have no contact with his daughter. And that’s
only half of of it. And I know what he tells me is true, because I’ve heard it all come out of this woman’s mouth, and she doesn’t feel sorry about any of it. I don’t blame her for our lack of money. But why is she bitching about not having money for gas and bills and her “wants and needs”? It’s called CS for a reason. My bf should pay for his daughters needs, like food, clothes and school. But this woman still thinks he’s responsible for her bills and her tattoos and whatever else she may want or need. It’s not his job to pay for her car and rent and her clothes and her tattoos and her shoes and whatever other useless things she pends her money on. I was raised a lot different. My sis had a baby at 17. She graduated college and has a good job. She was never on welfare.She didn’t get a DIME from her baby’s daddy after they broke up. She did it on her own. She hasn’t heard form this guy either. And then there is woman like my bf’s ex who have a guy that actually tries to help and cares
Answer:
Answer by Joe Crebbens
Get rid of him and stay away from men. You’re too old now and the world has become such that most people are divorced, corrupt, failures and have screwed up lives.
Relationships should mostly involve young people, and they may get married, have a family and remain together for life. If it doesn’t work out, forget it…and also don’t become involved in the hell of others.
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Boyfriend honesty problems?
Question: Boyfriend honesty problems?
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. about a year and a half.
Yesterday I went to his house and he asked me if I could clean his room. so I did (thats not the problem)
I later find out that the reason he’s needs his room clean is that one of his guy friends is coming over to spend the night. (notice he doesn’t keep his room clean when I come over – just his guy friends)
So his friend comes over, and Im at my house talking to him on Yahoo instant messenger. He says, “Im going pee and getting some food” and logs out. I wait over an hour and he texts me saying “hello” I reply back and say “hi. 
i love you. where are yous?” and he replies, “i love you too baby.” and I said, “where are you at?” and he says “hanging out with my friend” (he knows I already know he’s with his friend) he keeps dodging my question.
I know he went to the movies to see the hunger games. I wanted to see that movie… and he knows that. but he took his guy friend instead….
what should I say? should I forgive him? He lies like this quite often but in smaller ways
please give me some advice
no, i didn’t watch the movie.. i don’t even want to watch it anymore.
I agree with that – that men don’t clean their rooms for guy friends. :[
Answer:
Answer by Steve-O in AZ
Really? You watched that fuckeup Movie?
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Advice on why my boyfriend wont tell me how he feels about me?
Question: Advice on why my boyfriend wont tell me how he feels about me?
My boyfriend and i have only been together for 3 months. I care for him a great deal. He helps me when I need it. If my car headlight goes out, he is out there in the snow (I live in Ohio) to fix it. He gives advice better than any of my girl friends.
He is VERY open about his thoughts. He talks openly about politics, people, family, global issues, and gets fired up over things. I like that he is passionate, because I am too. We have lots of intellectual chemistry and he seems comfortable sharing his beliefs and ideas. Emotionally though, it’s a different story.
I tell him that: I am lucky to have him, I like him, I tell him he’s handsome, he’s smart, a great problem solver, and that I love how he treats me and makes me happy. I don’t overdo it. I tell him on a regular basis any of the above things.
His response? Nothing. Dead silence. Or he changes the subject. It’s becoming very difficult for 2 reasons. One, I wonder if he feels the same about me, or if he is not longer interested. When we first started dating 3 months ago, I got compliments. I was beautiful, smart, etc. He also always said “i always put my woman on a pedal stool” or “My woman will always come first.” Not a whole lot, but definitely more than what I am getting now. Now, I get zero compliments. No feedback either on whether or not he is happy with me, or if I am someone he potentially could settle down with.
Second, when I realized there was no reciprocation, I started to bottle up my feelings to not “smother” him. I have been silent on my feelings for him lately and it’s very crippling to keep it all in. I want so much to exchange verbal intimacy and fall in love with him freely (I have already fallen for him but I dare not say so).
When I’m in a situation where I have to keep my feelings in, I become resentful and feel neglected. I really want to resolve this but then there’s that feeling of “scaring him off” if I share my feelings. I hate not knowing if he feels as strongly. I want to ask him, “do you feel that I am what you have been looking for?” It’s unfair because I already told him that he is perfect for me and that I am nuts about him. It’s not fair that he gets to walk around with all this security and I have none!
He really is great to me. If i need anything, he is always there for me. He has dinner ready for me every time I come over. But I want to know how he feels about me. He seems uninterested in my life, while I let him gush on and on about himself. Believe me, he can TALK to great extent about himself. I like listening and asking questions. I really wish I could get the same in return, though!
We got in a fight about a month ago and he said he buys me things and fixes my car to show me he cares, and i told him material things or money isn’t what i want from him, i want a person to share my life with and to be loved by. During this fight i told him all i want is to be told that you care for me and that i make you happy, and even when i said that, he didn’t say anything. Not one word. I also told him before we even started dating that because of what my ex’s have put me through (cheating, emotional abuse, i recently lost 60 lbs so if a fight occured they would call me “fat”, and physical abuse) that i have very low self esteem and when i am with someone i need reassurance that they are satisfied with being with me, which is when he said “I always put my woman on a pedal stool.”
Anyways, sorry it’s so long, i just need advice on possibilities of how i can get him to tell me how he feels about me.
I have found myself being very depressed lately because of this. It makes me feel like i’m not satisfying him. My mind has been wondering of “maybe this or that is wrong with me”
Answer:
Answer by Hamza21
Sounds like the guy has problem expressing his emotions. That is who he is. Accept it or find somebody else. You’re not going change him.
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Q&A: What vegetarian recipe can I cook for my meat-loving boyfriend?
Question: What vegetarian recipe can I cook for my meat-loving boyfriend?
My boyfriend won’t believe me that vegetarian food is really good. I’m cooking him dinner tonight. What can I cook him so that he belives me. Something to WOW him.
Thanks!
Answer:
Answer by tapdiva2003
My husband is a meat eater too and he loved these!
http://www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/recipe.aspx?recipeID=4611&Source=SearchResultPage
http://www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/recipe.aspx?recipeID=7746&Source=SearchResultPage
http://www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/recipe.aspx?recipeID=4622&Source=SearchResultPage
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Q&A: i have no idea what to do about my boyfriend…?
Question: i have no idea what to do about my boyfriend…?
my boyfriend….. super sweet guy. we have a lot in common. we get a long reallyyy well. etc…
the only problem is he always says things like “I know you want me to leave” when he’s at my house, or “I know you’re leaving me for him” or “you think I’m fat”
so really, basically low self-esteem he has.. I’ve talked to him about it, and his insecurities, I’ve told him it hurts me and i feel frustrated, sad, etc. explained my feelings… and asked if he could stop or something.
he says he’ll try…
then today… i was just in a bad mood and didnt wanna ask if he could come over (im 18.. i live with my parents so i have to ask…) and then i tell him i cant tomorrow, or saturday because i work and then have to go out of town both those days. he cant sunday.
now he’s in a bad mood he said, and doubts anyone really cares about him…
that hurts me… because i spend a lot of my time trying to make him feel cared about. i even spent $ 200 (i dont have much.. and im saving) on his bday gift… ugh
Answer:
Answer by kiki43212
that’s a tough situation…wat u should do (and I know this mite be hard) but if it gets worse, u should dump him…his insecurities and low esteem could end up effecting you worse if you don’t…the only other option is that u talk to him even more about it
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my boyfriend… should i break up…?
Question: my boyfriend… should i break up…?
my boyfriend….. super sweet guy. we have a lot in common. we get a long reallyyy well. etc…
the only problem is he always says things like “I know you want me to leave” when he’s at my house, or “I know you’re leaving me for him” or “you think I’m fat”
so really, basically low self-esteem he has.. I’ve talked to him about it, and his insecurities, I’ve told him it hurts me and i feel frustrated, sad, etc. explained my feelings… and asked if he could stop or something.
he says he’ll try…
then today… i was just in a bad mood and didnt wanna ask if he could come over (im 18.. i live with my parents so i have to ask…) and then i tell him i cant tomorrow, or saturday because i work and then have to go out of town both those days. he cant sunday.
now he’s in a bad mood he said, and doubts anyone really cares about him…
that hurts me… because i spend a lot of my time trying to make him feel cared about. i even spent $ 200 (i dont have much.. and im saving) on his bday gift… ugh
Answer:
Answer by raphael
tell him to call you in 5 yrs. maybe he will grow up then.
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what should i do about my insecure boyfriend u_u?
Question: what should i do about my insecure boyfriend u_u?
my boyfriend….. super sweet guy. we have a lot in common. we get a long reallyyy well. etc…
the only problem is he always says things like “I know you want me to leave” when he’s at my house, or “I know you’re leaving me for him” or “you think I’m fat”
so really, basically low self-esteem he has.. I’ve talked to him about it, and his insecurities, I’ve told him it hurts me and i feel frustrated, sad, etc. explained my feelings… and asked if he could stop or something.
he says he’ll try…
I don’t know what to do. i’m really not happy (and he does this atleast once a week)
i did just spent $ 200 (i dont have too much money..) on his b-day gift for tomorrow… so i do really love him.. i just… i feel like i cant take this anymore!
his mom makes fun of him, so i assume thats why he has low self-esteem..
maybe when he goes to college it’ll change?
I always compliment himso idk
he did say he was proud of himself (omfg) because he got a 5 on an ap calc test so
idk
Answer:
Answer by Kim Smith
tell him confidence is sexy , it worked for me before. just that simple sentence.
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