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Q&A: My daughter in law is always calling my grand daughter fat shes only two years old but can that give her low ?
Question: My daughter in law is always calling my grand daughter fat shes only two years old but can that give her low ?
Answer by Lauren <3
I assume you meant low self esteem? I wouldn’t think at 2yrs old it would affect her very much, but it may cause problems within the next few years if she continues doing it.
I have a 2 yr old, and I vowed never to tell my daughter she was fat. The only thing (in my opinion) that will do is make her feel bad about herself. There are plenty of other alternatives to making a child skinnier/healthier. Chances are, your granddaughter is not fat at all. Toddlers are supposed to have some baby fat on them.
If however your granddaughter is overweight, shouldn’t it be her mom’s job to feed her healthier things and make sure she gets plenty of exercise? At that young of an age a child doesn’t know what “fat” is, or how to make the choices to change themselves.
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Q&A: What are some ideas for school lunches for my vegetarian daughter who goes to a peanut free school?
Question: What are some ideas for school lunches for my vegetarian daughter who goes to a peanut free school?
School doesn’t offer too much vegetarian choices. Also peanuts are not allowed.
Answer by VeggieTart
Can she have other nuts? There’s almond butter, cashew nut butter, and soy nut butter. You could make sandwiches with that. There are also veggie deli slices that are good in sandwiches.
Check out the Vegan Lunchbox for more ideas. The author makes lunches for her son to take to school, so they don’t have to be heated up to be palatable.
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My daughter is in from her divorce, I cursed at her in my frustration. How can I get her forgiveness?
Question: My daughter is in from her divorce, I cursed at her in my frustration. How can I get her forgiveness?
My daughter Mara is one of the sweetest people I’ve ever known. I love her dearly and I hope I haven’t lost her for good. It’s been about five or six months since her low life husband cheated on her and dumped her for another woman. She is winning her divorce court battle but that’s not enough for her. I was very supportive to Mara and I told her that she can and will find someone better. But I got tired of it after a while because my motherly advice and my motherly encouragement is simply going in one ear and out of the other. At this point, Mara is basically choosing to be miserable. She’s still sad over it and she’s not moving on. She uses the excuse that she’s too “fat” to find someone else. Bullshit. My niece(Mara’s cousin) is a chubby woman herself. Despite that, my niece dresses well, she’s hygienic, she carries herself with confidence and she’s always positive. So, I’m getting sick of my daughter’s “I’m so fat” thing, it’s getting old and annoying. I’m DONE with it.
Last night, my husband and I invited Mara and my granddaughter Heather over for pizza and to play Dominoes. My stereo(which is connected to my Ipod) started playing the song “End of The World” by Skeeter Davis. The song is sad as hell, so I was about to change it until Mara told me to leave it there because she likes the song. So, I left it there. All of a sudden, Mara breaks down in tears in front of everyone complaining that life is unfair and she wishes her husband would come back to her. I’m sorry but I lost it. I swiped the Dominoes off the table and yelled at Mara “You stupid f***ing b*tch! When are you going to get over it! Don’t bring your miserable bullshit over here, that’s not what I invited you for!”
So, Mara and Heather went home immediately. My husband wanted to console our daughter but he knew I was right, so he kept quiet. A couple hours later, I went on facebook and viewed Mara’s status saying “You are an arrogant cold-hearted b*tch, remind me never to discuss my problems with you anymore”. I knew that it was directed at me and it hurt my feelings. I am a good mother to Mara and she knows it. I don’t mean to come off as cold but it’s just that I like to speak the truth and hugging someone all the time and being extra sweet only makes them feel even sorrier for themselves. I didn’t want to hurt my daughter; I want her to love herself more and to be happy, for Heather’s sake at least. I don’t want my granddaughter to end up like her when she grows up. What she’s doing is not healthy. I don’t apologize for what I said but I do apologize for hurting her. How can I make it up to her without contradicting the point I’ve been trying to make for the longest time?
Answer by lillilou
Pizza and domino’s aren’t the most healthy options either. Perhaps next time a healthier meal and something more active.
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Q&A: What should my boyfriend do about his ex and not being able to see his daughter even if he pays child support?
Question: What should my boyfriend do about his ex and not being able to see his daughter even if he pays child support?
My boyfriend has this crazy ex that I feel sorry that he even has to deal with for the rest of his life. It might sound mean or f*****d up, but I swear, if you could hear the things this woman tells him and how much she harasses him, you would think the exact same thing. So they had a child together six years ago. The story is long and f****d up. They broke up and now he pays her child support and he hardly EVER gets to see her. He’s lucky if he sees her 1 a month. She’s always calling to yell at him about SOMETHING. As of right now, he’s homeless, but he works and he’s trying to save up so we can move in together. I met him 2 years ago and we have a 9 month old son. I stay with my mom and he sleeps n his car. He pays 300 a month in CS. If he’s a week late his ex FLIPS OUT. She doesn’t seem to understand or care that he is homeless, trying to take care of his family, while he hardly has any money to feed himself during the workweek, so he can pay her the CS. She’s always going out and partying and buying alcohol and spending her money shopping while we are struggling a lot. It’s hard for me to find a job because I don’t have a car and we live in a rural area and have no public transportation. It’s also hard for me to find anyone to watch my baby. I’m sure if i worked we would do better. But his ex has a boyfriend who could work and help her pay for things, but she expects my boyfriend to still pay for her bills and her food and calls him a “deadbeat” because his 300 “don’t go very far” and “she wants to make sure her family has more than enough food” while we can’t even buy food. I’m lucky my mom is letting me stay with her and not making me buy my own food for me and my baby. We just don’t know if there is anything we could do about this. He should be getting 14 hours a week with his daughter, court-ordered, but doesn’t get to see her. He wouldn’t mind paying his ex the CS if he could spend time with his daughter, but he feels he’s paying for a child he never gets to see. And not only that, he’s giving his ex money, even though she’s always complaining she never has money for her gas or bills, but is always getting her hair and nails done and going to bars and parties. This story is soo long and I could go on all night, and this woman did my bf soo wrong, and still continues. Is there anything we could about this??
First of all, he wasn’t homeless when I met him and got pregnant. And second of all, you guys have NO IDEA what this woman has put him through. He was laid off, just like many many people out there in this recession. The house we were renting out was put into foreclosure, and that’s how I ended up at my mom’s. This woman was a drug addict who cheated on him with AT LEAST 7 different men, that he knows of. He had a good job when they were together, and made good money. He saved up money to get a house together. And what did she do? Did drugs when she was pregnant, made him take care of the baby girl after he came home from a hard days of work so she could “go out”, had sex with other guys for drugs, spent his money on vacations and shopping. Belittled him about anything, broke him down. She milked him for his money, and once the money was gone, she was gone. And why did he stay with her that long?? He knew this would’ve happened and he would have no contact with his daughter. And that’s
only half of of it. And I know what he tells me is true, because I’ve heard it all come out of this woman’s mouth, and she doesn’t feel sorry about any of it. I don’t blame her for our lack of money. But why is she bitching about not having money for gas and bills and her “wants and needs”? It’s called CS for a reason. My bf should pay for his daughters needs, like food, clothes and school. But this woman still thinks he’s responsible for her bills and her tattoos and whatever else she may want or need. It’s not his job to pay for her car and rent and her clothes and her tattoos and her shoes and whatever other useless things she pends her money on. I was raised a lot different. My sis had a baby at 17. She graduated college and has a good job. She was never on welfare.She didn’t get a DIME from her baby’s daddy after they broke up. She did it on her own. She hasn’t heard form this guy either. And then there is woman like my bf’s ex who have a guy that actually tries to help and cares
Answer by Joe Crebbens
Get rid of him and stay away from men. You’re too old now and the world has become such that most people are divorced, corrupt, failures and have screwed up lives.
Relationships should mostly involve young people, and they may get married, have a family and remain together for life. If it doesn’t work out, forget it…and also don’t become involved in the hell of others.
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Question: Am I being over paranoid about feeding my daughter certain foods?
Okay my daughter just turned a year old. She has only 8 teeth and only the bottom two are all the way grown out. She doesn’t really know how to chew very well so I still feed her stage 3 baby food dinners or I mash up spaghetti-O’s or other soft soups/foods. Alot of my family tease me about this but I know my daughter isn’t ready to eat things like potatoe chips or meats or anything else that requires “chewing” and I now have the fear of leaving her alone to be baby sat for fear that they will give her something against my orders that I know she will for sure choke on. Am I being too phobic and depriving my daughter of “good food” as they so often say. Also let me add that I do have a serious fear of choking and I freeze up in situations like that a few years ago I almost watch my dad suffocate on fathers day on a piece of steak, I knew cpr and was trained in it and when I saw him choking I froze and couldn’t move so this adds to my not “taking chances” but to me this is different because her teeth are NOT completely through and she doesn’t really chew she more or less sucks on things to get them mushy. So opinions pls, Am I being over paranoid or do I have a valid point and shes really not ready for certain foods??????
Answer by Rugratzzzzzzzzzzz
Of course she cannot chew on a steak, but there are lots of other foods that she can have, I dont think you need to mash everything, but if its soft then she will get the idea. soft pasta, veg, fish are easy to eat and suck/chew. If you need to mush it then do it only a small amount leave some small lumps in it, just so she can get the idea, and if she just swallows then its not going to hurt her. give her what you eat, but in small pieces, if she grabs a carrot from the table let her eat it, or try to. use fresh veg broccoli, cauliflower, peas, potatoes, beans, even sausages.
there is no real time frame for changing onto solids, but most should be having something from 4-5 months.
Wish you luck
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Question: Do you think my daughter could be talking behind my back?
Rylee is almost one. My grandmothers-in-law keep my baby usually 4 days out of the 5 that I work a week. One of them is always saying “she said ____ today” And she gets really excited. Here are a few examples:
Mamaw J was counting her buttons and when she got to 3 Rylee said 4-this was at 9 months
Mamaw J was watching Elmo with her-she said 12 after Elmo said 11-this was around 8 months
Mamaw J said she said papaw
Mamaw J said she said Jaden-very plain-also “brother” at 5 months old
Yesterday Mamaw J said Rylee got a picture of me and Jason and Jaden and said “daddy, mommy, Jaden”
She has also said “door” “out” “get that” “I dont’ want it” etc.
I have never heard her say any of these words myself. She has said “baby” “daddy” “num num”-when eating her food, “no-no” “J-J”-for Jaden “mama” “ball” “bye-bye” Ya know, the normal words.
So, do you think my daughter is talking behind my back and I am missing it? Or do you think Mamaw J is just hearing what she wants to hear There have been times when it sounded like she said something, but she didn’t-it was just babbling.
STAR IF YOU LOVE JUSTIN BEAVER!!!!
WTF Bob? I work full time. Other than that she is with me. Did you miss that part? Or are you just the EFFIN dumb??
*that not the
Bieber?? I thought it was Beaver. I am so crushed :’(
T-Licious-I think it’s just Mamaw J saying that because she thinks she heard it. I honestly don’t see how a 5 month old could say “brother” or “hair” and mean it.
R’s Mom-Yeah, you kind of have to know what she is saying to actually understand what she means. Baby is actually with ‘d’ so ‘dady’. It’s quite hilarious.
Answer by Tahsin
I think Mamaw J is lying. You should of heard your daughter say basic words a few times.
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I’m concerned about my 13 year old daughter. A BMI of 15.02. She never exercises, but it’s still quite low?
Question: I’m concerned about my 13 year old daughter. A BMI of 15.02. She never exercises, but it’s still quite low?
This is her daily diet: Two weet-bix and lite milk, I tried to get her to put honey on it and also have a milo, but she insisted she didn’t, no recess or lunch, and then we went out for dinner, she had spaghetti with a napoletana sauce, then when we got home she had fruit salad, I make her eat this every night. It doesn’t seem enough but she won’t eat any more. She doesn’t openly tell me she won’t eat any more, but for example in the morning, I told her to have honey on her weet-bix and put it in front of her, but she said nothing and didn’t put it on. I put the milo in front of her and told her to drink it, but once she finished with the weet-bix she walked away.
She has a BMI of 15.02, (weighs 40 and is 164 cm tall, or 88 pounds and 5.32 feet) which I know is irrelevant with children, but it is classified as “severely underweight” in adults. She hasn’t started menstruating yet, but she has pubic hair, underarm hair, and has started developing breasts, which would suggest that she has started puberty, but there’s not any “puppy fat” that normally goes with that.
Answer by Lexi.
Encourage her to eat more, but don’t make it seem like you think she is anorexic. My mother did that to me, even though I was eating until I was full and it was quite irritating. I’m also very small. There’s nothing wrong with that. I never had any baby fat either really. I weigh 100 lbs and I’m about 5′ 6″ and I eat more food than many of my friends who are larger than me. If you’re really worried about it, maybe you should take her to the doctor to make sure there’s nothing physically wrong with her.
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Question: Family disrespects how I raise my daughter?
The other day, my husband and I attended our nephew’s birthday party. We were getting ready to eat and my SIL asked if my daughter, who is 14 months old, is allowed to have pizza. I said no. The last time we gave her pizza, she choked on it and turned blue. My SIL’s daughter chimed up “No mom, she’s not allowed to have ANYHTING”, in a really snotty way. My SIL then proceeded to give my daughter pizza. My daughter, yet again, choked. Then my SIL started giving my daughter straight juice, and I told her it needs to be watered down half and half. She said “I’ve never done that with my kids, and they’re fine.”
I then had my older niece (2 kids), my SIL, their friends, and a few other people start harassing me saying “I never gave my child baby food, they went straight to table food”.
It was disgusting, because there was a really chunky 6 month old eating pizza there, and all these kids, my SIL’s, my older niece’s kids, and the other kids are all really chubby.
I don’t want my daughter to end up with weight problems and childhood obesity. I have introduced foods slowly. She is on table foods, but only when it is appropriate. If we have something she cannot have, she still gets baby food.
I felt very angry and embarassed for what my family did. They completely disregarded me and my daughter’s health. It really upsets and angers me, because it’s not the first time they’ve done it. When my daughter was 3 months old, my SIL gave her a freezie!! Last week, my SIL also gave my daughter KFC!!
I don’t want to come across as a stuck-up b**** of a mother, but I want to keep my daughter healthy and stay away from unhealthy and sugary foods.
How can I bring this up to them without coming across as a stuck-up b****? Am I overreacting?
Regarding the sleep issue, I think it’s great to have kids on a set schedule once they hit a certain age. My daughter is on a schedule and I told my mom to keep her on it, don’t let her sleep past 4pm or you’ll have her up until midnight. My mom didn’t believe me, and she learned the hard way. My daughte stays on her schedule now.
Answer by Don’t Make Me Angry!!
14 months and allowed to have pizza? huh? that really does not sound kosher at all
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Question: How can I defend myself and my daughter from a false neglect claim?
I post a question about my daughter’s weight every few days and the responses repeat what all the other pediatrician’s opinions that she’s not the weight she should be in accordance with her birth weight which was 9lb 4oz (I was 7lb and her father was 8lb so we don’t know why she was so big) but that she is still a healthy 15lb 4oz 7 month old. She lost close to 2 lb in the hospital after she was born she regained the weight in 2 1/2 weeks and gains weight regularly just she isn’t 20lb like the weight charts recommend. She eats about 24-30 oz of formula a day and about a 3/4 a jar of baby foods and some of those garber graduates cereal pieces here and there. She is only fussy when she is tired, but other than that she is happy and crawls around all day like any other baby. She sits up by herself and plays with her toys and is social. I’m lucky to have such a happy sweet baby.
At her 6 month check up before I took her for her shots (including the flu shot) I talked to her fill in pediatrician (her’s was on vacation) about her weight gain and what she should eat. The pediatrician didn’t even listen to her whole history, she asked how I feed her and I said that she eats 6 oz of formula at a time unless she is constipated and then I might add .5 oz of water each extra with some Karo syrup. She said that I can’t “water her formula” and that’s why she was always small from birth on (I breastfeed until 2 month ago and she was still on the same growth pattern as now).
Even though the pediatrician gave me an attitude I didn’t say no to a follow up with her 4 days later. That night my daughter had a low fever and didn’t want to eat probably because she got all of her shots for 6 months and her flu shot. The next day she was fine and ate normally. At the appointment 4 days later she had lost 1 oz from 4 days before. Her pediatrician freaked out and ordered blood work to be done and said she would probably have to go to a gastroenterologist. Then there was no call for a month (in which my baby gained a pound) which I took as a good sign. The 7 month appointment the doctor had an attitude saying things like ‘are you still doctoring the baby’s food” I asked how to prevent my baby from having rough skin on her knees from crawling and the pediatrician said “why didn’t you buy her knee pads” (do baby knee pads even exist?!) When I was leaving she said “instead of driving out here so often I’ll have a nurse drive out to do the next weight follow up in your home’. The way she said it really seemed odd, especially because she was clear that there was nothing to worry about with the blood tests.
Today my husband got a call from a nurse who was instructed to observe and instruct me on how to feed my baby. My husband doesn’t care he’s an asshole I’ve always known that, but it makes me wonder what’s next from this pediatrician and what I should do or if I am even wrong.
By the way I have always been small I was not a low birth weight but the average 7lb 8oz but I was skinny my whole life. I didn’t weigh over a 100lb until I was 16. My dad is 5’9 and 145lb, my mom after 5 kids is 5’6 and 121lb. Even now 7 month after having a 9lb 4 oz baby I weigh 115lb (that’s without dieting or exercising). All the other pediatricians said that’s probably the explanation for my baby’s weight now.
Only serious answers please. Thank you for reading the entire question.
One of the pediatrician’s told me that if she hasn’t pooped for a day than add a table spoon of Karo syrup to a bottle of her formula (once not like all of them) and she will poop (it works) but now I just use pear juice with some nursery water if she is constipated
Answer by Jane
they are sending the nurse to you to check your home situation out and be sure that you are feeding the child properly. if you are doing what you should (and you seem to be) then don’t worry. if the nurse says everything is ok at home, then maybe the doctor will take your concerns seriously and check deeper into your child’s health issues.
this is good for you and the baby.
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Q&A: I have a 6.5 month old daughter and we have been doing “solid foods” for the past month and a half.?
Question: I have a 6.5 month old daughter and we have been doing “solid foods” for the past month and a half.?
The problem is that she will only eat in the evening. She wont really eat at all in the morning or afternoon. She is still breastfeeding. She doesn’t seem to like baby cereal either so I have pretty much stopped that and am doing a fruit and veggie at night. Well around 5 pm. Otherwise she strictly breastfeeds. Is this ok? I am thinking I should just keep trying every morning but It doesn’t seem to be making a difference she wont even take one bite!
Answer by cathrl69
It’s completely fine. Solids in the first year are just for practice anyway. It wouldn’t matter if she was eating _no_ solids at her age.
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