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My daughter is in from her divorce, I cursed at her in my frustration. How can I get her forgiveness?
Question: My daughter is in from her divorce, I cursed at her in my frustration. How can I get her forgiveness?
My daughter Mara is one of the sweetest people I’ve ever known. I love her dearly and I hope I haven’t lost her for good. It’s been about five or six months since her low life husband cheated on her and dumped her for another woman. She is winning her divorce court battle but that’s not enough for her. I was very supportive to Mara and I told her that she can and will find someone better. But I got tired of it after a while because my motherly advice and my motherly encouragement is simply going in one ear and out of the other. At this point, Mara is basically choosing to be miserable. She’s still sad over it and she’s not moving on. She uses the excuse that she’s too “fat” to find someone else. Bullshit. My niece(Mara’s cousin) is a chubby woman herself. Despite that, my niece dresses well, she’s hygienic, she carries herself with confidence and she’s always positive. So, I’m getting sick of my daughter’s “I’m so fat” thing, it’s getting old and annoying. I’m DONE with it.
Last night, my husband and I invited Mara and my granddaughter Heather over for pizza and to play Dominoes. My stereo(which is connected to my Ipod) started playing the song “End of The World” by Skeeter Davis. The song is sad as hell, so I was about to change it until Mara told me to leave it there because she likes the song. So, I left it there. All of a sudden, Mara breaks down in tears in front of everyone complaining that life is unfair and she wishes her husband would come back to her. I’m sorry but I lost it. I swiped the Dominoes off the table and yelled at Mara “You stupid f***ing b*tch! When are you going to get over it! Don’t bring your miserable bullshit over here, that’s not what I invited you for!”
So, Mara and Heather went home immediately. My husband wanted to console our daughter but he knew I was right, so he kept quiet. A couple hours later, I went on facebook and viewed Mara’s status saying “You are an arrogant cold-hearted b*tch, remind me never to discuss my problems with you anymore”. I knew that it was directed at me and it hurt my feelings. I am a good mother to Mara and she knows it. I don’t mean to come off as cold but it’s just that I like to speak the truth and hugging someone all the time and being extra sweet only makes them feel even sorrier for themselves. I didn’t want to hurt my daughter; I want her to love herself more and to be happy, for Heather’s sake at least. I don’t want my granddaughter to end up like her when she grows up. What she’s doing is not healthy. I don’t apologize for what I said but I do apologize for hurting her. How can I make it up to her without contradicting the point I’ve been trying to make for the longest time?
Answer by lillilou
Pizza and domino’s aren’t the most healthy options either. Perhaps next time a healthier meal and something more active.
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