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Question: I’m ugly and I hate myself.?
I’m 14 and I’ve always been really insecure about myself. Im a size 12 but mostly a 14 which doesnt seem that bad but I’m also short so I’m fat. And Ive been called it quite alot so its not that I just think I’m fat but I know I am. I havent grown in the past year and I think Im 5’2-5’3. Usualy fat people would have boobs or just “balls of fat” but I dont even have that, my boobs are tiny and I hate them. I have cellulite on my bum and the back of my legs, I have stretch marks around my hips and boobs, and I have more body hair than a girl should. My arms and stomach are the worst. I usualy shave my stomach which I know does a terrible job because the hair only grows back even thicker, and I hate that I’m stuck with it for the rest of my life. As for my face, I have acne, and well my face is just basically ugly. The insults Ive always been given are ugly, fat, emo, goth and things like that.
Lastly, the reason I’m writing this out is because I was feeling really insecure today and asked my boyfriend if he found other girls prettier than me, to which he replied ‘Maybe some, but you’re still beautiful and I love your personality’ but it’s made me even worse because I thought I’d found one person who thinks Im more beautiful than anybody, but obviously not.
P.s sorry if this was really long hahah, Advice would be really appreciated, Ive been crying nearly every night for the past weeks now and Im sick of it, Ive never felt so low.
Answer by Logan Cost
LMAO you must be trolling
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Question: How Do I Push Myself?
Okay Well I Am A Lot Overweight I Feel.
I Weigh Like 188 And I’m Suppoused To Weigh 130-140ish(Im 17 Btw) It Never Use To Bother Me Before When I Knew I Was Overweight My Parents& Family Would Tease Me But I Always Told Them A Guy
Will Love Me No Matter What I Look Like Or He’s Not For Me. Evidently That Isn’t The Case Anymore. I Haven’t Dated In Awhile. Not Even Hooked Up. My Friends And I Use To Be About The Same Size Now I Feel So Much Bigger Than Anyone. I Mainly Hang Out With My Cousins. Both Who Have Wayy Better Bodies Than I. One Of My Cousins Lets Call Her Cousin 1 She’s 14 And She Eats Juss As Much As I Do. And Wears About A Size Medium. Cousin 2 Is My Age And Wears Size Small And Sometimes XS Hanging Out With Them Makes Me Feel Like A Total FatAss. My FriendsAndFamily Try To Tell Me “Your Not That Fat” Although It’s Easy To Say It. When It’s Not YOu. I’ve Tried Eating Healthier And Some Excercising But It Never Seems To Sick. How Do I Push Myself To Stick To A Diet Or At Least Not Eating So Much Junk. And Pushing Myself To Go Out And Excercise? I Never Seem To Mind Until After I Finish Thats When I Regret It The Most. I Feel My Weight And Low Confidence Is Pushing Me Away From Boys Please Help With Some Ideas.
Meaning What Exactly? Like I Enjoy Soccer?
So Your Saying I Should Play Soccer For A Couple Hours?
Answer by Ashley
Try something that interests you. You’ll be more motivated to do it, and you’ll feel more confident in yourself because you know you’re doing something you love.
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Question: How can I think less negatively about myself?
I feel guilty for even typing this since people are far worse off than me yet I’m searching to simply feel better. Sorry in advance for that.
Anyway I’m 15 years of age and male.
I’ve suffered from depression since I was 10-11 yet this has gotten worse over the last few months, I feel naturally sad apparently but I feel people at school play a role in my sadness. I’m ugly, for the first couple of years of secondary school I got bullied for being ugly, I had severe acne but most people that age did, luckily it’s cleaned up since but my nose is still covered in blackheads and I get spots occasionally. When I first got acne I was teased for it and often hurt, the teasing continued to happen over parts of me like my teeth, my nose, my eyes, pretty much me as a person. I feel terrible about my looks and for the last year have resorted to wearing makeup, which has resulted in many girls laughing at me or calling me names for doing something that they say only they should be allowed to do, the makeup is just a bit of concealer or foundation, not any extreme eye shadow or lipstick as I wouldn’t wear that to school . I’ve had many more problems which have resulted in therapy and counselling, suicide attempts have occurred but at this very moment I am fine so that is out of discussion. School was hard, I had 1 friend but they went to a different school so I spent my time alone being picked on, teachers never cared. I currently weigh around 5-6 stone, I don’t have a set of scales but my doctor weighed me last week to work out my BMI and he said it was really low, I know nothing about what is the right weight so am not an expert in this topic but he said I should eat much more than I do after taking a survey on my diet. I currently am out of school, I had to stay at home for a while but I’m starting a special school in a mental clinic for children and teenagers in a few days, I should be back at my regular school hopefully in less than a month as I will miss far too many exams and will need to pay to retake them, although I have stayed up to date with my curriculum and done work at home and will there. Long story short my friend was talking to me today and brought up that I was pretty “chubby”, she herself was not skinny nor fat, quite a healthy weight I’d say, though she is very short whereas I’m a bit tall so her BMI was a little high she said once. I asked if I was fat and she said yes, in a friendly way but dead serious. I didn’t think I was very skinny, I was told I needed to gain and hadn’t gained since then but was apparently according to her very large, we’re friends so when she asked if I could show her my stomach I agreed and she laughed and told me to diet, I laughed it off as she would of got offended if I got upset but now I feel huge my self esteem which was in terrible state, I’ve actually been wearing a balaclava for the last week and haven’t left my house. I’m not asking “Am I fat?” because I know I am, but how can I stop focusing on my fat, my big pointy nose, my messed up teeth, my freckled/blackhead filled skin, etc..? I don’t like myself and my family tell me too stop being like I am or no one will like me. It’s just I feel really insecure and the doctors and pills dont seem to be helping greatly though I hugely appreciate them. I would like some advice to give me a start on working towards being a better person and maybe even being able to show my face in public again? Thanks
Answer by Madelyn
I’ve been teased alot for what I look like, and basically, the only way I can deal
With it is not think about or ignore everybody who tells ya those horrible things.
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Question: SHOULD I STARVE MYSELF TILL SOMEBODY FINALLY NOTICES ME?
I am fat , have been since I was a small child, always larger than my peers. But my face is very very very pretty. Men I have figured that out by now don’t pay any attention to a woman’s face. They only care about her body. I have seen that happen with me and my friends dozens of times. I am the best looking among my 10 friends (as far as my face is concerned) but I weigh 185 pounds and 5’5′. I actually am lucky because I don’t even look that fat, but I definitely do look fatter than my skinny friends who weigh 120 ,130 pounds. Whenever we meet men, they get all of them, right off the bat. The men immediately choose them and talk to them while ignoring me because I am not as thin as society has made us (men and women) think we should be to be beautiful. Well I don’t mean to be nasty, but some of my friend have really hideous faces and still the men fall for them as long as they have a thin body.
Some men would even say it right to my face :”Oh, no we don’t want you we want your friend here (the one with the disgusting face) because YOU ARE FAT” How much worse can it get?
That’s why I am convinced that some men would even date a girl whose head would be that of an actual goat but had a “gorgeous” (my modern society’s standards) body. I have seen such horrors in my life that I can believe anything.
So my friends keep getting and dumping men one after the other and here I am still single…crying inside all the time. I know that if I lost weight in order to finally make men notice me would be like endorsing this IDIOTIC behavior (men choosing women only for their bodies) and I really don’t want to end up dating a guy who would just be so SHALLOW as to get attracted to me only because I will weigh 120 and not 185 pounds. BUT MEN, WHETHER THEY ADMIT IT OR NOT DO THAT.
But I am really depressed and alone, never had a boyfriend, and I think it is so unfair that really ugly women (in terms of their face) get men, even handsome men (like one of my friends) and I can’t even make them look at me, turn their heads and say ” she is pretty” even if I have a model-like face (I have been asked to do plus-size modelling once).IT IS NOT FAIR.
WHY ARE MEN SO STUPID?
I am depresse and I hate my life. I am suicidal I think. Not sure, but may be. So for the last 15 days I have stopped eating, 0 calories a day, NADA. I have decided to starve myself until a man finally notices me, and I am not invisible to them anymore because of my body…or if that doesn’t happen I will still continue to starve myself, become anorexic and DIE…I have really thought of that too. I want to starve myself to death because life is not really giving me anything…I am 99% of the time disappointed in my life. So why keep on living, why keep on eating? Why keep on trying to reach and to get something that is OUT OF REACH?
And by the way, I am NOT even eating a lot. When I used to eat (before these last 15 days) I would eat LESS than most of my friends but my metabolism was never very active and so whatever I put in, my body just stocked it as fat, even if I took 1000 calories a day. I am NOT fat because of overeating. I am just born with this tendency to accumulate fat. I AM THE UNFORTUNATE ONE. I see some of my friends eating 5 times a day, meat and pasta ad chocolates and everything that will get you fat and they still DON’T get fat. I on the other hand am a VEGETERIAN, only drink/eat low fat products , whole-grain bread and pasta, vegetables, salads etc i.e. ONLY HEALTHY FOOD and I still can’t lose weight. No matter how little I eat I would still gain weight. My body doesn’t discard anything as waste…it saves it all. IT’S SO FRUSTRATING. So the only solution is to STOP EATING ALTOGETHER.
But even now after 15 days of only water drinking and NO FOOD WHATSOEVER I have only lost about 7 pounds. So it will be a really long time before I reach 120… I f I haven’t died by then.
LIFE SUCKS, MEN ARE SHALLOW…I HATE BEING ME…
PETER…THat is the problem…men like you. Assuming immediately that I must not be attractive because I have extra pounds. THAT IS SOOOOOOOOOO SHALLOW. Attractive doesn’t only mean thin. I AM ATTRACTIVE. I WROTE THAT. I AM 100 TIMES MORE ATTRACTIVE THAN THE AVERAGE WOMEN YOU END UP WITH…BUT MEN LIKE YOU ARE STUPID AND CAN’T SEE IT…. LAME ****
ASHLEY…Another false assumption. God why do people have such stereotypes…”Oh she is fat…so she must ugly and overeating and definitely not exercising…” That is NOT true.
I walk at a fast pace 1 hour every day and the doctor suggests 30′ a day. I do more…but if I eat…anything even the smallest piece of bread (whole-wheat too) I will gain weight. I AM NOT FAT BECAUSE I LEAD AN UNHEALTHY LIFESTYLE… stop using stereotypes. I am fat because my body and my metabolism, maybe my DNA, is programmed to stack up fat for whatever reason I don’t know and doctors may not know it either….PERIOD.
Answer by Peter
Men are shallow because you are not attractive… Yeah ok, this is like that same bs when people get mad because they are friend zoned.
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Question: Help me stand up for myself?
Ok, people at my school consider me a “popular” and they say I hang out with the “popular” people. Well, my “friend” Brittany is like SUPER popular and she thinks she knows everything. Well I’m really pretty (I’m not bragging, I promise. It’s hard for me to even say that because I have really super bad low self-confidence), but we hang out with some girls that are popular but aren’t so pretty. I have a great personality (I have to say. That’s one thing I DO like about me!) but they always seen to invite the other girls along with them. My mom said it’s because they’re jealous of me, but I don’t think so (Even though I AM prettier than Brittany; guys are inlove with her because she is honestly a STICK with a HUMONGOUS, like HUGE HUGE HUGE butt!). She has dark brown hair, she’s pale, has ugly makeup, and has holes in her face. Like forreal, HOLES. From where she “scratched herself when she was a baby” apparently all over her face! Well, she’s always mean to me. I’m tired of it. She says I’m “fat”. I wear a size 4 or 6 in jeans!! That may be chubby, but NOT fat! I don’t want to call her names. But I want to sound mature and ask her to please stop talking about me. Help me with some stuff I could say to her? Thanks.
Oh, and we got in a fight one time which I’m sure is the reason she hates me but I said, “Honey, I can lose weight. But you can’t fix that ugly a*s face of yours!” Which I know was really immature.
Answer by julia
They probably are jealous! And a size 4 to 6 is not chubby that’s perfect. Don’t let her get to you. I know girls like that but i don’t pay them any mind. Just remind yourself that your prettier than her.Go up to her and pull her away from her friends ( girls seem to act tougher when they have people around them) and start off talking to her nicely and ask her why she acts the way she is tell her how you feel but don’t make yourself sound like you feel less than her because then she has a weakness over you.
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Question: I want to slowly ease myself into becoming a vegetarian what should I start with to eat?
No tofu or soy milk those I find to taste horrible. What are good frozen vegetarian foods? And for those that went from being a meat eater to vegetarian what is the taste difference between a beef burger and a Boca burger?
Answer by shopaholicsareanonymous
if you want to ease yourself into it start as going semi vegetarian where you just dont eat red meat but you can eat poultry or fish. make sure to eat beans, lentils, and vegetables full of iron and protein such as broccoli. you can get veggie burgers made from soy and veggie burgers made from vegetables instead of soy, as well as other kinds. There are a lot to choose from. Try out different brands and decide which you like best. There are also veggie hot dogs, veggie lunch meats, and many other veggie meats.
Also, make sure to check the ingredient lists of things you regularly eat to make sure there is no beef broth, chicken broth, or any other type of animal ingredient. you’d be surprised at what they actually put in some foods. For example, in Campbells Vegetable Soup, there is actually beef broth. Not vegetarian at all.
Any other questions, email me. I’ve been a vegetarian for 2 & 1/2 years and I’ll help as much as you need.
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Question: Low Self-esteem… I really don’t like myself?
Alright, so since I was little I grew up with my grandparents living downstairs. I love them both, but my grandfather would always say “Alyssa, you’re fat” or “Alyssa, you’re ugly” and then my grandmother would get angry with him and he would turn around and say something like “See, now she is angry with me. Look what you did!”. I’m 15 now, and I really do hate myself. every guy I have ever liked has always gone off with my friend instead of me because she is prettier and had DDs. My body size is really weird, im a 36″ chest, 26″ waist and 44″ hips… I feel fat all the time… and no matter what people say I really find myself ugly. I have a great boyfriend who says I am the most beautiful thing in the world to him and that, while Cassie (my friend who gets the guys) is pretty, I am beautiful…. But I still find it hard to believe him. I know that what my grandpa said to me from age 6-12 was wrong but for some reason I still think it’s true… and I suppose I will post a picture to show you guys that im not all that pretty. http://s994.photobucket.com/albums/af68/Lestatrox/?action=view¤t=stuff104.jpg and this is cassie http://s994.photobucket.com/albums/af68/Lestatrox/?action=view¤t=12464_337337530620_837175620_100093.jpg
Answer by Skye
Honey, you are a beautiful girl, and you are not fat. You need to stop looking through the “world’s glasses” or whatever it is… I’m also fifteen, and I dealt with self-esteem for a bit, and I know how you feel. I, for one, have never been asked out on a date, much less had a boyfriend, and it was the same way with me–I would start to like a guy, but then he would turn out to like one of my friends. It doesn’t bother me anymore.
Alyssa, no matter what anyone tells you, you will always be a beautiful girl, and you have friends and… *sigh* You shouldn’t hate yourself. I’ve been there, and it only made my life miserable. Even if you weren’t pretty (which you are), it’s a matter of heart and who you are inside that matters. I’m sick of magazines and models and all this junk that tries to define beauty. You and I are something far more valuable than all of that. We are actually Real.
Hold in there and think about it for a moment. You have a boyfriend, you have friends, you have a life… you’re a beautiful girl and you’re making a difference in the lives of everyone else around you. When you hate yourself, in a way, you’re kind of saying that your friends have terrible judgement. Because they think that you’re awesome enough to hang out with. I guess I’m just saying that you should try to look at the brighter side of your life instead of pulling yourself into depression. Again, I’ve been there. And hatred and sadness and anger and feeling insignificant only feed the hatred and sadness and anger and insignificance. Sometimes you have to let it go and see the beauty around you and within you, because no matter what some people say, you are beautiful, and you need to know that more than anyone else does.
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Question: How can I defend myself and my daughter from a false neglect claim?
I post a question about my daughter’s weight every few days and the responses repeat what all the other pediatrician’s opinions that she’s not the weight she should be in accordance with her birth weight which was 9lb 4oz (I was 7lb and her father was 8lb so we don’t know why she was so big) but that she is still a healthy 15lb 4oz 7 month old. She lost close to 2 lb in the hospital after she was born she regained the weight in 2 1/2 weeks and gains weight regularly just she isn’t 20lb like the weight charts recommend. She eats about 24-30 oz of formula a day and about a 3/4 a jar of baby foods and some of those garber graduates cereal pieces here and there. She is only fussy when she is tired, but other than that she is happy and crawls around all day like any other baby. She sits up by herself and plays with her toys and is social. I’m lucky to have such a happy sweet baby.
At her 6 month check up before I took her for her shots (including the flu shot) I talked to her fill in pediatrician (her’s was on vacation) about her weight gain and what she should eat. The pediatrician didn’t even listen to her whole history, she asked how I feed her and I said that she eats 6 oz of formula at a time unless she is constipated and then I might add .5 oz of water each extra with some Karo syrup. She said that I can’t “water her formula” and that’s why she was always small from birth on (I breastfeed until 2 month ago and she was still on the same growth pattern as now).
Even though the pediatrician gave me an attitude I didn’t say no to a follow up with her 4 days later. That night my daughter had a low fever and didn’t want to eat probably because she got all of her shots for 6 months and her flu shot. The next day she was fine and ate normally. At the appointment 4 days later she had lost 1 oz from 4 days before. Her pediatrician freaked out and ordered blood work to be done and said she would probably have to go to a gastroenterologist. Then there was no call for a month (in which my baby gained a pound) which I took as a good sign. The 7 month appointment the doctor had an attitude saying things like ‘are you still doctoring the baby’s food” I asked how to prevent my baby from having rough skin on her knees from crawling and the pediatrician said “why didn’t you buy her knee pads” (do baby knee pads even exist?!) When I was leaving she said “instead of driving out here so often I’ll have a nurse drive out to do the next weight follow up in your home’. The way she said it really seemed odd, especially because she was clear that there was nothing to worry about with the blood tests.
Today my husband got a call from a nurse who was instructed to observe and instruct me on how to feed my baby. My husband doesn’t care he’s an asshole I’ve always known that, but it makes me wonder what’s next from this pediatrician and what I should do or if I am even wrong.
By the way I have always been small I was not a low birth weight but the average 7lb 8oz but I was skinny my whole life. I didn’t weigh over a 100lb until I was 16. My dad is 5’9 and 145lb, my mom after 5 kids is 5’6 and 121lb. Even now 7 month after having a 9lb 4 oz baby I weigh 115lb (that’s without dieting or exercising). All the other pediatricians said that’s probably the explanation for my baby’s weight now.
Only serious answers please. Thank you for reading the entire question.
One of the pediatrician’s told me that if she hasn’t pooped for a day than add a table spoon of Karo syrup to a bottle of her formula (once not like all of them) and she will poop (it works) but now I just use pear juice with some nursery water if she is constipated
Answer by Jane
they are sending the nurse to you to check your home situation out and be sure that you are feeding the child properly. if you are doing what you should (and you seem to be) then don’t worry. if the nurse says everything is ok at home, then maybe the doctor will take your concerns seriously and check deeper into your child’s health issues.
this is good for you and the baby.
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